It’s the ultimate graduation cliche: Find your passion! All commencement speakers seem to be required to use these three words at some point in the address, and for good reason: Life is more exciting and fun when you’re passionate about what you’re doing.

But telling someone to find their passion and telling them how to do it are two different things. Modern young people are used to lives scheduled to a hilt. Alas, “find my passion” can’t be scheduled at 4 p.m. on Thursday, after chemistry lab and before that stint volunteering at the local senior center.

So how do you figure out what would make you excited to go to work or at least wake up in the morning? I think there are a few things you can try:

1. Interview relatives about what you did as a kid. What did you spend your days doing when you didn’t have to do anything? If your parents dragged you to umpteen lessons weekly, this question may not be helpful. But when someone left you alone in the basement, what toys, games, and books did you gravitate toward?